About the Trailer

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When my father died 3 and a half years ago, I was in a bit of emotional shock for quite some time. Despite taking on his role as the family leader during the turmoil that followed his death, I managed to shoot a couple of short videos on my brother’s little photo camera.

A couple of weeks later, as I started to get my self back together, I thought of making a short film about his passing to help me process and focus on the information. I messed around with it a little bit- and when I went back to my hometown for a public service a month after he died, I shot a few more videos with that same camera. I liked that the grainy videos felt almost like super 8, and that they had a home movie quality that made them feel intimate.

I got myself one of those same point and shoot cameras and began to use it liberally, documenting my new daughter’s birth, and my older daughter’s new songs.

Periodically, I would sit down and try to work with some of the footage, trying to find some way to honor my father’s memory and connect with my sense of loss (which was something i was having a lot of trouble doing). A few months after my daughter’s birth I ran into my friend, Lois, who told me I had to go for a boy to round out my family. That’s when the little film morphed into a much bigger film about much larger and more complex issues. Still, I knew that it would begin with my father’s passing and explore the nature of family.

Since then, I have thought about this film a great deal, and shot a little bit more. Like this exercise in blogging, the trailer pretty much tumbled out fully formed since it had been gestating for years, but it’s only the jumping off point. This 4 minute trailer will probably spread out to about 15 minutes in the film.

I’ve been thinking a lot about the rest of the film, but it will be some time before I pull it together. In the meantime I’ll continue to write about the process.

  • David R
    Posted at 01:47h, 18 August Reply

    Hi, enjoyed your film a lot. As a former donor I’ve gone through all the same emotions. You really have a beautiful family, and I’m sure your father was very proud.
    I have had contact with one offspring, who is a lovely girl just as old as my 2 sons, born to a lesbian couple – one of which died rather recently thus the decision by her partner to contact me.
    There must be many more but I think sadly the vast majority will simply not be told.
    Take care, Dave.
    PS: I am a Chiropractor and musician/bassist, I may have to try that dress look out myself sometime.

  • Connie Turner
    Posted at 05:22h, 18 August Reply

    After viewing your trailer I feel the need to know more of the personal narratives from sperm donors. Wow! There is so much to learn and understand about men like yourself who are exploring the meaning of family from your perspective of father, husband,son and sperm donor. Through your work and honesty on the subject, I am sure the word will get out, perhaps spread far and wide and the children, the sons, will find you.
    Best of luck to you.

  • Chris C.
    Posted at 10:19h, 18 August Reply

    Can’t wait to see the finished film. I thoroughly enjoyed the trailer. Hope it helps you find all your children.

    All the best,


  • Leslie
    Posted at 12:14h, 22 August Reply

    Your off to a great start! This film needs to be out there. Please don’t give up until it is finished. I hope that it reaches both the donor receipient familieis and the multitude of donors out there who have not even thought about the posibility of contact between donor half siblings or between donors and offspring.
    Donor Mom and proud member of donorsiblingregistry.com

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